Saturday, January 28, 2012

MAIL - 19 - Part - 8

I Wrote -

Dear Friend

When one study the marriages of prophet Mohammad, there are two phases. First is the marriage of the man Mohammad and second is the marriages of prophet Mohammad.

Marriage of the Man Mohammad

The man Mohammad at his youth, was not affected by the before said Practices of Ignorance. At the age of 25, he married Kadeeja who was a widow, at her 40s. Kadeeja have had two marriages before. Both of her previous husbands had died and had children, before she married the man Muhammad.

Marriages of the Prophet Mohammad

At the age of 40, the man Mohammad became prophet Mohammad. Till his age of 50, prophet Mohammad had only one wife. Please note that, at this point of time prophet Mohammad had become The Head of The State of his country.

Here comes the importance and the facts of multiple marriages of prophet Mohammad. Before I start, I would like to ask you - what is meant by a marriage ?

- Is it a relationship only for meeting the Material Lust ?
- Is it a relationship only for acquiring the Wealth ?
- Is it a relationship only between the Same Aged ?
- Is it a Discardable relationship ?
- ...

The majority people who scandalizes the marriage of prophet Mohammad, only know these kind of standards to define what is meant by a marriage because -

- When they go for marriage, they strictly look for the Beauty.
- When they go for marriage, they strictly look for the Wealth.
- When they go for marriage, they strictly look for the Age.
- ...

So before one analyze the multiple marriages of prophet Mohammad, one should definitely understand two important things.

1. The Principles of Marriage by which prophet Mohammad did the marriages and commanded to follow.
2. The Socio-Political circumstances of the Head of The State prophet Mohammad, that necessitated the marriages.

Marriage Principle - 1

"A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers." - Prophet Mohammad.

So one should prefer a religious mate over a beautiful, wealthy mate. This does not mean that beauty and wealth etc should be completely overlooked. It does mean that one should look for a religiously disciplined mate, at the first place. Here the definition of religion most prominently include The Religion of Worship of One God without any man-made objects.

Marriage Principle - 2

And give to the women (whom you marry) their dowry with a good heart, but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm. Quran 4:4

Quran teaches that The dowry should go from a man to woman (not from woman to man) and it is a must.

Marriage Principle - 3

"A matron (widow) should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle! How can we know her permission?" He said, "Her silence (indicates her permission)." - Prophet Mohammad.

- A woman should be married only after getting her consultation/permission. No force should be applied for marriage with anyone.

Marriage Principle - 4

"Beware of suspicion (about others), as suspicion is the falsest talk, and do not spy upon each other, and do not listen to the evil talk of the people about others' affairs, and do not have enmity with one another, but be brothers. And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her."  - Prophet Mohammad.

- If a marriage proposal is made then don't meddle with another proposal until the first one ceases.

Marriage Principle - 5

"The worst food is that of a wedding banquet to which only the rich are invited while the poor are not invited. And he who refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Apostle." - Prophet Mohammad.

- The worst wedding lunch/dinner is the one to which only the rich are invited.

There are 100s of such principles set by prophet Mohammad. The people who scandalizes the marriages of the prophet, have not even seen or practice these kind of principles ever in their life.

The point is -

- If prophet Mohammad had married any woman then it was due to her religion and it was not due to wealth, family status or beauty.
- If prophet Mohammad had married any woman then he had given the dowry and he did not accept anything from the woman.
- If prophet Mohammad had married any woman then he had their consultation/permission.
- If prophet Mohammad had married any woman then he did it without any meddling.
- If prophet Mohammad had married any woman then he did it by inviting the rich and the poor.
- ...
- If prophet Mohammad had married any woman then it was based on these kind of 100s of Marriage Principles.

The above principles and its explanations are only a snapshot from the teachings of prophet Mohammad, its length and breadth can never be seen anywhere under the sky. Hence, before one look into the marriages of prophet Mohammad, one should first learn these invaluable Marriage Principles set by prophet Mohammad.

will be continued ...

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